As I sit here reflecting on 2024, I’m struck by how much of last year surprised me. It definitely wasn’t the year I envisioned. I imagined it filled with thriving—a booming business, financial abundance, and a steady flow of clients. Instead, the year asked me to focus on something far deeper: Stability! Looking back, I see it was a gift from the Divine I didn’t know I needed, but deep inside, my heart was craving.
Through the highs and lows, I found lessons that not only reshaped my year but allowed me to have a deeper connection with my family, the Divine, my spiritual practice and most importantly, myself. This depth had me look at love, romance and intimate bonds in a new and refreshed way. I recognized how the Divine Mother was lovingly telling me, “My child, in order to experience soulful love and prosperity, you have to get your house in order first.” No pun intended, but it was literal this time. Let me share this insight, and some tips with you, as I invite you to dance with the Divine as well. Because, stability is the new sexy!
Stability: The Foundation for Love and Life
Lovely, let’s get real: Thriving sounds sexy, but it’s an illusion without a solid foundation. When I chose “thriving” as my compass word for 2024, I thought I would leap straight into success since I wasn’t a wondering nomad after 18+ months of no stability.
“But here’s the truth: Without stability, thriving is the Tower card in the Tarot, it’ll come crashing down because you’re trying to build a mansion on quicksand – on a rocky foundation.”
In the first quarter of the year, MY focus was to jump back into my business, like old times. The Divine Creatrix had a different plan. It was clear: my health. I hate to say this, but I fought it every step of the way. Even though my body was screaming for attention, my mind had other plans. Insurance was dictating the pace, so for 3 months, I was frustrated with the overwhelm of doctors’ visits. Feelings of guilt started to surface because I felt I was letting myself down, and letting my Vixen tribe down because I couldn’t focus on business. But I finally surrendered. Prioritizing my wellness became the first step in creating a foundation for everything else.
How Stability Can Improve Your Love Life
When your life is stable, you become the kind of person who exudes calm loving confidence—and trust me, that’s magnetic. You feel more grounded in your connections which allows you to be ‘present’ with your loved one. It sets the stage for a relationship where both partners can grow together, free of unnecessary chaos. It also allows for both partners to feel secure and stable in the relationship, which is key for many women.
Tip for Creating Stability:
- Prioritize Your Body Temple: Your body is your powerhouse. Stop treating it like an afterthought. I’ve been told, “Your wealth is in your health,” and “When you love your body temple, it aligns with the energy for others to respect your body as well”. Just as Mother Earth is seen as the Divine Temple for many indigenous cultures, your body is your divine temple on Mother Earth.
- Inspired Action: Schedule that overdue doctor’s visit or commit to a morning walk—your empire depends on it.
Healing Past Fears Unlocks Feminine Confidence
My sweet sister, here’s the thing about fears: They don’t go away by ignoring them.
For 38 years, I’d resisted being in front of the camera. I know that may shock you, but it’s true, even though everyone tells me I’m a natural. Last year, I finally decided to stop running. And you know what happened? Magic.
It’s Springtime now and I was given the opportunity to feature the Tiny Vixen on two big YouTube channels. These were opportunities I wasn’t going to let fear steal from me. My head was wrestling with what ‘I wanted to do’ vs what ‘Spirit had in mind’. Even though the filming was “work”, and I wanted these exciting opportunities, my head was saying, “The timing doesn’t fit neatly in my calendar. I had other things planned”. Can you relate? This is the ego-mind trying to sabotage you.
So, I told that voice in my head, who I call the “Itty-Bitty Shitty Committee”, to take a hike and get lost. Instead, I allowed myself to relax and enjoy being in front of the lens. Everything shifted because I just focused on having fun by being me – quirks and all. I was having such a blast with the videographer; that energy came through loud and clear on the screen. I wasn’t worried about what other people thought. I exchanged the worry for being engagingly silly and authentic. From there, opportunities started to pour in.
I felt more aligned than ever, beaming with rockstar confidence! The same rockstar confidence you want to have with men. This is where your feminine charisma is oozing from every cell in your body – an energetic potion hard for a man to resist.
The lesson? Fear is just an invitation to step into your power.
How Facing Fears Enhances Your Love Life
You don’t have to eat a bucket of oysters to get your love groove on. Confidence is your feminine aphrodisiac. When you own your womanly power, and let go of the dreaded ‘Fear-Mongerer’, you draw your partner closer to you as if he’s floating on a cloud of love. Fear is replaced with faith. Worry is replaced with an open heart. From here, you can create a deeper sense of trust and intimacy that makes your love and sex life sizzle.
Tip for Healing Patterns:
- Celebrate Your Wins: Every time you face a fear, no matter how small, celebrate it. Pour yourself a glass of champagne, dance in your living room…naked it you’d like—whatever feels good. Success deserves celebration. I celebrated my new car by buying a blinged out steering wheel cover. I’ve never done that, until now.
- Inspired Action: Think about something you’ve been avoiding. What’s one small step you can take toward it today?
Surrendering Control Opens the Door to Love
If 2024 taught me one thing, it’s this: Stop fighting the current.
In other words, stop fighting the damn flow. I spent months trying to wrestle life into submission, stuffing and forcing life into the box I created for it. Only to be reminded that the Universe is in charge, not me. And honestly? Thank goodness for that.
During meditation, my Spirit Guides hit me with a truth bomb. They asked, “What would you do differently if you knew this year was about stability? If you knew it was a year about letting go of your old life to embrace the new life.” My answer? I’d stop micromanaging my life and remember to trust the process. I’d let go of control and ride the waves with grace. Just like I did to manifest the Tiny Vixen and uprooting my life to California.
It’s summer now, and here I was again, telling myself, “OK, now I can get back to business.” But it wasn’t until my car accident, which showed me, I still had more letting go of the old (Florida) so I could embrace the new (California). And this included my car! The patterns in my life were telling me this. With this understanding, I released my attachment to the old car, which allowed me to turn these crazy series of events into a triumph. (Read >> ‘5 Steps to Turn Tragedy to Triumph’)
How Surrender Deepens Connection
Letting go of control isn’t just liberating for you—it’s irresistible. The irresistibility comes from being more in the moment. This allows your energy to feel more open and down-to-earth, which men appreciate in women. When you create space for organic connection, your partner feels valued and trusted, and your relationship blooms with less effort and more joy. This makes you irresistible to your Lover.
Tip for Embracing Surrender:
- Practice Letting Go: Surrender isn’t weakness, my love, and you’re not being a doormat. Surrender is your superpower gifting you with blessings of contentment and joy. This becomes the moment you’re willing to let go of the struggle. Other words for surrender are trust and faith. The question is, do you have more faith in fear or in the Divine? Surrender is the moment you start to partner with (and TRUST) the Universe.
- Inspired Action: Each day, pick one thing in your relationship you’re gripping too tightly on. Ask yourself, “Why am I trying to control this situation?”, “What if I just let this be and learn to trust myself?”
Relationships Are Mirrors for Growth
Relationships are like mirrors: They show us the parts of ourselves we’d rather not see.
I know the dynamics in my relationships weren’t just about the other person—they were about me. Whether it was with family, friends, or romantic partners, each connection offered a lesson in growth. This was growth I needed to navigate if I desired to manifest a Life Partner in this stage of my life.
Thinking I could get into my business flow now, was quickly replaced with one of the most profound experiences in my life – during an unplanned trip to Jamaica. During the trip, I received an unexpected healing, and closure with my dad, as I was given the gift of seeing him ascend to the Heavens. This experience redefined my understanding of our relationship. This also showed me how REAL, the world of the unseen, truly is.
Last year, I was also given the gift of closure concerning my two ex-hubbies. This closure came in the form of a yummy man, who I call Lover Boy. I consider our connection to be a ‘healing relationship’; that necessary stepping stone which is preparing me for something big. More on that in the future.
But for now, remember, the greatest gifts come when we least expect them.
How Relationship Insights Lead to Fulfillment
Seeing relationships as mirrors turns the drama into valuable lessons. By learning from them, you not only heal but attract partners who align with the best version of yourself. When you can be objective enough to see what your relationships are telling you, this allows you to course correct and make more empowering choices leading to a more fulfilling and harmonious love life.
Tip for Nurturing Relationships:
- Meet People Where They Are: Don’t try to change others. Instead, focus on showing up as your best self and let the relationship unfold naturally. This is what I’ve been doing with Lover Boy. He’s a ‘healing relationship’ vs a ‘long-term relationship’. I’m able to objectively see what triggers I still have. Then, I’m able to heal the underlying pain without taking things personally. Even though there were times I did take something personal, I was able to see the bigger lessons to navigate the waters more smoothly.
- Inspired Action: How can you nurture an important relationship today? Call, text or send an email to the first person that pops in your head. I’m sure you’ll both appreciate it.
Reflecting and Recalibrating
2024 wasn’t just a year—it was a complete ‘Do Over’.
It forced me to look at what was working, what wasn’t, and what I needed to change. Surrendering to the flow became my superpower. By the time December rolled around, I felt a clarity I hadn’t experienced in years. I big lesson I learned was to not throw out the baby with the bathwater. For me, this looked like taking the best of Florida and melding it with the best of California to create my ‘New Path Forward’. This is where the skill of a surgeon is required vs the destruction of a wrecking ball.
Every twist and turn last year had a purpose. My car accident? A lesson in detachment. Business setbacks? A reminder to realign. My Lover Boy? An opportunity for closure. Life isn’t about avoiding the storms; it’s about learning to dance in the rain. And when you can dance in the rain with your man by your side, it’s a beautiful sight to behold.
How Reflection Fuels Love
Reflection is like a reset button for your heart. It helps you clear out old patterns, make space for new or revitalized love, allowing you to set intentions for the kind of relationship you truly deserve.
Tip for Reflecting and Recalibrating:
- Ask Transformative Questions: What brought you joy this year? What drained you? Use these answers to set your intentions for the new year.
- Inspired Action: Click here to download your copy of the ‘My Year in Review’ worksheet. This is the same worksheet that I, along with my clients and students, complete at the end of each year, to set up the new year in the best way possible.
- Then, join me on January 29th, for the annual Life Design Mastermind to help you set powerful intentions for 2025! More details coming soon.
A Year of Grace and Growth
As I said, 2024 wasn’t what I expected, but it was exactly what I needed.
Through stability, surrender, healing, relationships, and reflection, I found grace in the unexpected. Ironically, I was able to manifest 2 of my 3 intentions for 2024 – romantic fun and getting business exposure via the Tiny Vixen. They just happened by taking a different route than I was originally thinking.
Now, I feel ready to step into 2025 with a heart full of hope and a foundation strong enough to support my next step. As my physical therapist told me, “Be the tortoise (flow) and not the hare (rushing).”
And so, I ask you: How will you embrace the unexpected in your own life? What gifts are waiting for you in the lessons you didn’t plan for? The answers may surprise you, just as they did for me. Let’s walk into this year together, grounded, open, and ready for all the magic life has to offer.
My intention for 2025 is to be the tortoise. This time, I gladly let the Divine Mother hold one of the reigns of the chariot as I hold the other. Working together, we’re a Divine Dream Team.
So Lovely, click here to download your copy of the ‘My Year in Review’ worksheet. This will help you to set up the new year in the best way possible. AND, join me on January 29th, for the annual Life Design Mastermind so you can set powerful intentions for 2025!
I look forward to seeing you there.
Have a Sassy Day, Stacey
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