I was 19. I was in college. And, my #MeToo story is Domestic Violence.
As the wave continues in the United States, with more and more stories of sexual assault coming forward from all areas of life, I didn’t feel I had a place to share my story of domestic violence. This was my thinking until a friend said the following, “If all the women, who have been assaulted by a man, sexual or not, posted their #MeToo story on Facebook maybe then the world would finally see how big this problem is and finally do something about it.”
When I read that, tears formed in my eyes. Even though it was over 30 years ago, even though I share (almost in passing) of this toxic relationship, even though he’s the Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde character in my new book, even though this crisis transformed me into the woman I am today, even though I love the woman I am – it still FUCKING HURTS! The tears I’m wiping from my eyes tell me so. These tears are telling me I need to finally share my FULL story. Not just the part that doesn’t hurt, but the full ugly story. These are the same tears, you see the women on TV shed, even though their assault happened one, two or three decades ago. It still HURTS!
I feel raw and extremely vulnerable.
What I feel may be missing from many of the #MeToo stories is hearing how women have triumphed despite the trauma. This triumph demonstrates how strong women truly are versus a misconception of weakness. I know there are many women who feel they just survived their situation. They don’t feel as if they’re thriving, but in my case I say triumph. Women need to see how other women have triumphed after such violation so we can change the dialogue in our country, and in the world.
To be honest, when I completed the first draft of this article, it was 6-pages, typed, single-spaced, so I decided to share my #MeToo story with you in parts. It’s still going to be a long article because I’m not sharing my story on my blog. I’m sharing my intimate story of pain and triumph with you. If you don’t have time at the moment, come back and read this when you have 30-minutes to reflect. If you don’t care, it’s okay to delete this email and unsubscribe from my list. If you don’t care, you’re not a woman I can help. I’ve made it my life’s purpose (my Dharma) to give my time to women who want a better life.
When you read my articles, view my videos, attend my classes or become a client, you see an empowered woman exuding self-worth in front of you. You see a woman who loves men. You see a woman who owns her own business. You see a woman living in her dream neighborhood experiencing life with both of her partners. This is who I am now. Over the next couple of weeks, you’re going to finally learn the full story of my journey to get here.